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The Unspoken Rules of Elevator Etiquette (and the People Who Break Them)

The Unspoken Rules of Elevator Etiquette (And How to Avoid Being “That” Person)

My Personal Elevator Nightmare (And Why You Need to Read This)

We’ve all been there. You step into the elevator, hoping for a quick and quiet ride to your floor. But then, the doors close and you’re trapped. Trapped with them. The Chatty Cathy who wants to discuss their entire medical history. The Close Talker who invades your personal space like it’s their job. The one person who decides to bring a full tuna sandwich on board (seriously, why?). It’s enough to make you want to take the stairs, even if you’re on the 20th floor.

Elevators, those metal boxes of awkward social interaction, are governed by a set of unspoken rules. Rules that, sadly, some people seem to be completely oblivious to. So, let’s break down these unspoken commandments of elevator etiquette, shall we?

Rule #1: Thou Shalt Respect the Sacred Silence

Rule number one, and arguably the most important, is the sacred silence. The elevator is not your personal phone booth, karaoke bar, or therapy session. It’s a place for peaceful contemplation, light music streaming through your headphones, or perhaps, the gentle hum of awkward silence.

Yet, there they are. The ones who feel the need to narrate their entire day, complete with sound effects. The ones blasting questionable music from their phones. The ones who mistake the elevator for a confessional booth, divulging personal details you never asked for and definitely didn’t want to know.

March 13, 2025
The Great Escape: My Hilarious Attempt to Avoid Family Game Night

We all have those family traditions that, while endearing, can sometimes feel like an obligation. For me, it’s our monthly game night. Don’t get me wrong, I love my family dearly, but there’s something about forced joviality and the inevitable Monopoly-induced meltdown that makes me want to disappear into the witness protection program. So, this month, I decided to stage a grand escape.

The Dodgy Dentist Appointment: My Master Plan

My master plan hinged on a single, fabricated element: a last-minute dentist appointment. I even practiced my “Oh no, my tooth is killing me!” grimace in the mirror.

family, bless their trusting souls, bought it hook, line, and sinker. I could practically hear the internal sighs of relief that they wouldn’t have to endure another round of my cutthroat Scrabble strategy.

Operation: Freedom…Foiled by a Family Text!

With a theatrical wince and promises to “be back soon,” I made my grand exit. My destination? Sweet, glorious freedom in the form of a quiet coffee shop and a good book.

family, crammed into the waiting room of…you guessed it, my dentist’s office. Apparently, what started as a “We miss you!” text quickly morphed into “Let’s surprise them!” And because the universe enjoys a good laugh at my expense, they chose that exact moment to pay a visit.

Busted by My Family…and Sentenced to Board Games

My cappuccino suddenly seemed less appealing. I considered, for a brief, insane moment, hiding under the table. But alas, even I’m not that skilled at disappearing acts. So, with the grace of a gazelle caught in headlights, I walked over to my family, my carefully constructed lie crumbling around me like a poorly built card tower.

The worst part? They weren’t even mad. They thought it was hilarious! They laughed, they took pictures of my defeated face, and then, the cherry on top, they insisted we all go back to my place for game night. Because, as my dear mother put it, “We were already on our way!”

What’s Your Best Excuse? Share Your Story!

So, dear readers, I leave you with this: What’s the most elaborate excuse you’ve used to get out of something? Share your hilarious stories in the comments below!

(Just don’t tell my family. They’re already planning the next surprise visit.)

March 12, 2025
The Unspoken Rules of Being a Public Transit Passenger

My Public Transit Initiation: A Crash Course in Subway Etiquette

I’ll never forget my first solo ride on the subway. Fresh out of high school, armed with a brand new MetroCard, and a map I swore I understood, I confidently descended into the urban underworld. Little did I know, I was about to get a crash course in the unspoken rules of public transit etiquette.

backpack and accidentally elbowing someone in the face (sorry again!), I finally found a seat. Relief washed over me… until I realized I was practically sitting on the lap of the person next to me. It was then I learned the delicate art of the “subway spread” – a skill that takes years to master.

Public Transit Etiquette: Mastering the Art of the Invisible Wall

Speaking of personal space, let’s talk about the “invisible wall.” We all know it’s there. That invisible barrier we erect around ourselves on crowded buses and trains. It’s a delicate dance, really. You want to be close enough to maximize space efficiency, but not too close that you’re invading someone’s personal bubble. And heaven forbid you make eye contact. That’s a surefire way to break the unspoken code.

Once, on a particularly packed commuter train, I witnessed a rookie mistake. A man, clearly new to the public transit game, sat down next to a woman and proceeded to strike up a conversation. Not just any conversation, mind you, but a full-blown interrogation about her life story, complete with animated hand gestures that nearly took out my left eye. The look on the woman’s face was priceless – a mix of horror, amusement, and a desperate longing for noise-canceling headphones.

Backpack Etiquette on Public Transit: To Carry or Not to Carry?

Ah, the backpack. The bane of many a commuter’s existence. We’ve all been there – stuck behind someone who seems oblivious to the fact that their oversized backpack is taking up the space of three people. Here’s a pro-tip, folks: when you’re on a crowded train or bus, take your backpack off and hold it in front of you. Your fellow passengers will thank you.

One time, I was on a bus so crowded that people were practically hanging from the rafters. And there he was, Mr. Oblivious, with his gigantic backpack swinging from his shoulders like a wrecking ball. People were getting knocked left and right. Finally, a brave soul (bless her heart) tapped him on the shoulder and politely asked him to remove his backpack. His response? “But it’s heavy!” The collective groan from the passengers was almost audible.

March 12, 2025
The Unspoken Rules of Elevator Etiquette (and Why I Break Them All)

My Personal Elevator Everest

Let’s be honest, elevators are weird. They’re these metal boxes that transport us through the bowels of buildings, crammed with strangers we avoid eye contact with at all costs. And yet, there’s this invisible rulebook we’re all apparently handed at birth dictating how to navigate this 30-second journey without causing a social faux pas.

Take, for instance, my latest elevator adventure. Picture this: I’m running late for a meeting (shocker, I know), coffee sloshing precariously in hand. I make it just as the doors are closing, flinging myself in with a breathless, “Hold the door!” Everyone stares. My triumphant grin falters. The weight of their judgment (or maybe it was just the awkward silence) felt heavier than my overflowing inbox.

elevator etiquette violation. And you know what? I’m okay with that.

The Silent Treatment: An Elevator Etiquette Faux Pas?

Rule number one of Elevator Club: Thou shalt not speak. Apparently, engaging in conversation within the confines of an elevator is a social sin worthy of banishment to the basement (which, ironically, is where the elevator would probably take you anyway).

Listen, I get it. We’re all tired, rushing to important meetings, or just trying to mentally prepare for whatever fresh hell awaits on the next floor. But can we at least acknowledge each other’s existence with a polite nod or a “Good morning”? Anything but the deafening silence that currently reigns supreme.

Elevator Button Etiquette: To Press or Not to Press?

Ah, the age-old question: Do you press the button for someone else, even if it means stretching your arm across their personal space bubble? Or do you just stand there awkwardly while they struggle to reach?

Here’s my take: if you see someone struggling, offer to help! It’s a simple act of kindness that won’t result in you spontaneously combusting (probably). And if someone offers to press the button for you, accept their chivalry with grace. Unless they’re pressing all the buttons. Then run.

March 12, 2025
The Great Phone Number Mix-Up of 2023 (And Why I Keep Getting Called ‘Brenda’)

The Great Phone Number Mix-Up of 2023 (And Why I Keep Getting Called ‘Brenda’)

The Case of the Missing Pizza

“Hi, is Brenda there?” the voice on the other end chirped. I glanced at my phone. Wrong number? Nope, this was definitely my number. “Uh, you’ve got the wrong number,” I responded, a little confused. “There’s no Brenda here.” The voice on the other end gave a confused sound, mumbled an apology, and hung up.

No big deal, right? Wrong numbers happen. Except, this one didn’t seem to want to stay wrong. Over the next few days, the calls kept coming. “Hey Brenda, it’s your hairdresser, confirming your appointment tomorrow?” “Brenda, your prescription is ready!” And my personal favorite, “Brenda! Where’s the pizza? I’m starving!”

Brenda (And Get My Phone Back)
This was getting ridiculous. I mean, I love pizza as much as the next person, but I draw the line at being responsible for someone else’s pepperoni cravings. I decided to take matters into my own hands. I started by answering the phone with, “Brenda’s phone, who’s this?” hoping to piece together the mystery.

Turns out, “Brenda” was having a pretty interesting life. She was apparently a hairdresser herself (awkward!), had a dog named Sparky, and a serious online shopping addiction, judging by the sheer volume of delivery notifications I was getting. This was more information than I ever wanted to know about a stranger, but it did give me an idea.

The Wrong Number That Was Actually Right

I decided to use my newfound knowledge of Brenda’s life to track her down online. After all, how many hairdressers named Brenda with a dog named Sparky could there be in my city? Turns out, not that many. I found a likely candidate on social media and sent her a message.

“Hi Brenda, I think we might have a phone number mix-up…” I typed, feeling ridiculous. To my surprise, she responded almost immediately. It turned out, Brenda had just switched phone carriers and somehow, in a cosmic comedy of errors, we’d ended up with each other’s numbers.

We had a good laugh about the situation (and her online shopping habits). She promised to contact her phone company and get things sorted. In the meantime, we agreed to act as each other’s personal assistants, relaying messages and even intercepting the occasional pizza delivery.

March 12, 2025
The Unspoken Rules of Elevator Etiquette (and the People Who Break Them)

The Unspoken Rules of Elevator Etiquette (And How to Avoid Breaking Them)

My Personal Elevator From Hell

We’ve all been there. Packed into a metal box hurtling through the floors of an office building, desperately trying to avoid eye contact with strangers. Yes, I’m talking about the dreaded elevator ride.

Just the other day, I found myself in an elevator situation so awkward, it could only be described as a scene straight out of “The Twilight Zone.” Picture this: I’m squished between a guy loudly discussing his fantasy football league on speakerphone and a woman who seems to think her perfume is a superpower.

elevator ground to a halt between floors. The speakerphone dude’s triumphant roar (“Yes! Touchdown, baby!”) was cut short, and even the perfume lady seemed fazed. We were trapped.

This experience got me thinking about the unspoken rules of elevator etiquette, those subtle social contracts we make to survive these short, strange journeys together. So, for the sake of humanity, let’s break them down, shall we?

Rule #1: Respect the Elevator Bubble

Personal space. We all crave it, especially in the confines of an elevator. Yet, some people seem to forget the concept of a personal bubble the second those elevator doors slide shut. They stand too close, their backpack smacks you in the face, their loud conversation invades your thoughts.

Remember folks, an elevator is not your personal phone booth or karaoke stage. It’s a shared space, so let’s try to maintain a respectful distance and keep the volume down.

Rule #2: The Elevator Button: A Sacred Duty

Ah, the button pusher. The designated hero of the elevator ride, responsible for ensuring everyone reaches their desired floor. This is a position of power, not to be taken lightly.

Don’t be the person who frantically presses the already-lit button for their floor. Don’t be the person who tries to squeeze past everyone else to reach a button when someone closer could easily do it. And for the love of all that is holy, do not, I repeat, DO NOT hold the elevator door for your buddy who’s running late while everyone else watches in silent agony.

March 11, 2025
The Unspoken Rules of Waiting in Line (And Why I Always Seem to Break Them)

The Case of the Misplaced Coffee Order

We’ve all been there. Standing in line, patiently (or not so patiently) waiting our turn. But have you ever noticed that there seems to be an unspoken code of conduct, a secret society of line-standers that you never received the memo for? Yeah, me too. And apparently, I missed the meeting where they handed out the rule book.

Take last Tuesday, for example. I was at my usual coffee shop, buzzing with pre-caffeine withdrawal, when I committed a cardinal sin. I’d reached the counter, heart pounding with anticipation of that first glorious sip of coffee, only to realize—I had absolutely no idea what my friend wanted.

line behind me grew longer (and presumably, more irritated), and all I could manage was a weak, “Uh… let me just check with my friend real quick?”

The collective sigh from everyone within a five-foot radius was almost audible. I had broken the unspoken rule: Thou shalt not approach the counter unprepared.

The Awkward Etiquette of Personal Space in Line

Then there’s the delicate matter of personal space. We all crave it, especially when confined within the often-too-close-for-comfort boundaries of a line. But what constitutes “too close”?

Again, I’m guilty as charged. I have this terrible habit of unconsciously inching forward, like a moth drawn to a flickering light, except in this case, the light is the person in front of me. I don’t mean to be invasive; it just kind of happens. But I’m sure it doesn’t make for the most comfortable experience for the unwitting recipients of my creeping.

March 10, 2025
The Unspoken Rules of Elevator Etiquette (and Why I Break Them All)

The Day My Elevator Etiquette Died (and I Didn’t Care)

It all started with a rogue sneeze. I was crammed into a stuffy elevator, sandwiched between a man who looked vaguely like he was about to announce a hostile corporate takeover and a woman delicately dabbing at her upper lip with a napkin. The sneeze hit me like a freight train, a full-body convulsion that probably rattled the fillings in everyone’s teeth. And you know what? It felt amazing.

As I basked in the post-sneeze euphoria, I realized something profound: I had just broken one of the cardinal rules of elevator etiquette. I had acknowledged my fellow passengers’ existence. I had, dare I say, interacted with them. And the world hadn’t ended. In fact, the woman with the napkin actually cracked a smile.

That, my friends, is when I decided to wage war on the oppressive silence of elevator rides. I became a self-proclaimed Elevator Rebel, committed to injecting a little humanity into these metal boxes of awkwardness.

Elevator Etiquette Rule #1: Thou Shalt Not Make Eye Contact (Seriously?)

This is Elevator Etiquette 101. You know the drill: eyes straight ahead, fixed on the glowing numbers above the door, pretending with all your might that you’re not hurtling through space in a metal box with a bunch of strangers.

But here’s the thing: we’re all human. We all crave connection, even if it’s just a fleeting moment of shared amusement with a stranger over a particularly wonky elevator music rendition of “Despacito.” So I say, make eye contact! Offer a smile. You might be surprised at the positive ripple effects it can have.

Elevator Etiquette Rule #2: The Sound of Silence (Unless We’re Talking Profits)

Apparently, the only acceptable topics of conversation in an elevator are work-related and utterly devoid of personality. Heaven forbid you should mention the weather, your adorable new puppy, or the existential dread you feel when contemplating the vastness of the universe.

I, however, am a firm believer in the power of small talk. I’ve had surprisingly delightful conversations in elevators about everything from the best local coffee shops to the latest season of “Stranger Things.” Sure, not every conversation will be a winner, but at least I’m not contributing to the soul-crushing silence.

March 10, 2025
The Great Phone Number Mix-Up of 2023 (and Why I Still Answer to ‘Brenda’)
We’ve all been there. You’re going about your day, innocently sipping your coffee, when suddenly your phone erupts with the shrill cry of a wrong number. Maybe it’s a confused grandma looking for “Timmy,” or a teenager desperately trying to reach “Chad.” Usually, a quick “You’ve got the wrong number” suffices, and you move on with your life. But friends, my story? Oh, it’s a saga.

The Day My Phone Became a Portal to Brenda‘s World

It all started innocently enough. A call from an unknown number. I answered with my usual, “Hello?” A chipper voice on the other end chirped, “Hi Brenda! It’s Cindy from [Insurance Company I Will Not Name]. Are you still interested in that life insurance quote?”

Now, I’m about as far from a “Brenda” as you can get. My name is decidedly not Brenda. It’s not even close to Brenda. So, I politely informed Cindy that she had the wrong number. “Oh, I’m so sorry!” she chirped, and that, I thought, was that.

The Calls That Launched a Thousand Wrong Numbers

Reader, I was wrong. So, so wrong. Over the next few weeks, my phone became a hotline to Brenda’s life. I received calls from:
- The pharmacy reminding “Brenda” to pick up her prescription.
- A frantic woman claiming to be Brenda’s sister, demanding to know why Brenda hadn’t picked up her kids from soccer practice.
- And yes, dear reader, even more calls from Cindy from [Insurance Company I Will Not Name], each time more insistent than the last that Brenda needed to secure her future.
March 9, 2025
The Great Phone Number Mix-Up of 2017 (and Why I Still Get Nervous Calls)

Have you ever had one of those days where you feel like you’re living in a sitcom? Where the universe seems to be playing a cosmic prank on you? Well, that was my life for a solid year, all thanks to The Great Phone Number Mix-Up of 2017.

The Case of the Missing Pepperoni (and Other Phone Number Misadventures)

It all started innocently enough. I needed a new phone number – you know, the usual adulting stuff. Little did I know, this seemingly mundane task would plunge me headfirst into a world of mistaken identities, hangry callers, and enough pizza-related inquiries to last a lifetime.

My first clue that something was amiss came a few hours after activating my new number. The phone rang, and an enthusiastic voice boomed, “Yo, I need a large pepperoni, extra cheese, and hurry it up!”

Papa Joe’s Pizzeria?”

And so began my reign as the unwitting recipient of calls meant for Papa Joe’s, a once-thriving (judging by the call volume) pizza joint.

The Pizza Pilgrims and Other Wrong Number Tales

The calls were relentless. Hungry customers, delivery drivers seeking directions, even other pizza places wanting to borrow a cup of mozzarella – all found their way to my line. I quickly learned the Papa Joe’s menu by heart, could recite their delivery radius in my sleep, and even became somewhat of a connoisseur of pizza-related complaints (“Sir, I’m truly sorry, but I can’t help you with your undercooked crust”).

One particularly memorable call involved a group of tourists who were convinced I was holding their deep-dish hostage. Apparently, they had placed an order at the old Papa Joe’s location (now a laundromat, according to my intel), and were on a mission to claim their cheesy prize. It took all my persuasive powers (and a Google Maps search) to convince them they were on a wild goose chase.

Life After Papa Joe’s: Why I Still Answer the Phone with Caution

Eventually, the calls dwindled. Papa Joe’s faded into urban legend, and my phone number became my own again. But the experience left its mark. Even today, years later, I still answer the phone with a hint of trepidation, half-expecting to hear, “Yeah, can I get two slices and a Coke?”

March 9, 2025